My name is D’Anna, and I am an RPP, also known as recovering people pleaser.  I want everyone to be happy with me, and I want to make others happy, so being judged hurts.  For RPPs like myself,  I think the burn of  wounding words sears our souls even a little deeper.  I was thinking maybe instead of talking, complaining and ruminating about others, we should seek to understand what it is about that person or persons that are fanning the flames of something in ourselves that is worth examining.  When I take a good honest look, there is something there that has a lot more to do with me than someone else.