One of the hardest lessons The Lord very intentionally worked on with me as I grew was that someone else’s sin was not justification for mine. Have I mastered this; no, but I am very aware of it.
Life is messy. We all get hurt. People wound us and sometimes shatter our lives as we knew them. It is very normal to feel outrage towards our offenders. Our temper, however, must be disciplined not destructive.
When someone hurts you, or someone you love; don’t let their sin justify yours. Bridling our emotions does not mean we forget, and all is fine; it means we are free.
It is not our responsibility to punish or judge others. Galatians 6:7 says ~Don’t be misled–you cannot mock the justice of God. You will always harvest what you plant. We are only responsible for our actions and reactions, not those of others. Self-control is hard, but it is holy. As far as I know God is still God and he is not taking applications for His successor.